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如今,大学毕业后不久就结婚的都市年轻人越来越多,尽管此时他们在经济上还没有独立。
比如,据上海市徐汇区民政局去年的统计数据显示,在22岁至24岁的大学毕业生中,有1221人结婚,比上一年增加了50%。
据新华社报道,其中结婚的女大学毕业生比男毕业生多。
但有关专家认为,没有经济基础作保障,婚后生活不会幸福。
北京一对年轻夫妇刘浩和王妮由于入不敷出,只能靠父母为他们提供大量经济支持。
此外,刘浩的母亲有时还打电话叫他们起床,每周末去给他们做饭、洗衣服、打扫卫生、甚至帮他们处理一些账单。
上海社会科学研究院青少年研究所的专家孙宝宏说:“大学毕业后就结婚的年轻人大多家庭条件比较好,他们渴望过稳定安逸的生活。”
“然而,在此之前,他们其实还需要从社会上学习很多东西。”
张达,24岁,天津某大学毕业生,去年夏天结婚--
“父母已经为我准备了一套房子,所以我早早的就结了婚。”
“但我在单位还得装作是单身,因为和我同龄的同事们都还没结婚,如果他们知道我已经结婚了,一定会觉得有点怪。而且我担心他们把我看成有家的人,不带我玩了。”
“我还无法接受已婚这一身份。”
朱可,23岁,上海某大学毕业生,去年年底结婚--
“毕业后找份好工作的压力太大了,所以我决定嫁给一个爱我的、愿意替我分忧解难的男人。”
“但每当聚会时听以前的同学聊起他们毕业后的新单身生活时,总感觉有点怪,我现在担心的已经是如何付房款、什么时候看望父母、甚至什么时候要孩子这些问题了。”
“我和朋友的关系也渐渐淡了,我觉得自己错过了我这个年龄的女孩人生中最快乐的时光。”
武泽斌,北京大学社会学硕士--
“毕业后很快结婚可能会导致心理问题及经济问题的出现。年轻夫妇对工作、家庭生活及社会中可能会出现的困难估计不足。从长远来看,一时冲动可能会破坏婚姻的质量。”
agrowingnumberofyoungcitydwellersarechoosingtogetmarriedsoonaftertheygraduatefromcollege,despitenotbeingfinanciallyindependent.
lastyear,forexample,shanghai'sxuhuidistrictcivilaffairsbureausaw1,221collegegraduatesaged22to24tietheknot,up50percentonthepreviousyear.
ofthose,thereweremorenewlygraduatedbridesthanthereweregrooms,xinhuasaid.
butwithoutfinancialsecurity,marriedlifeisnobedofroses,expertshavesaid.
oneyoungbeijingcouple,forexample,liuhaoandwangni,relyheavilyonfinancialsupportfromtheirparents,astheirmonthlyoutgoingssurpasstheirincome.
inaddition,liu'smothersometimeshastocalltowakethemforwork,andshemakesregularweekendvisitstotakecareoftheircooking,washing,cleaningandevenpaystheirbills.
"mostoftheyoungpeoplewhogetmarriedsoonaftergraduatingfromcollegearefromrelativelywell-offfamilies,andtheylongforastableandcomfortablelife.
"however,theystillhavealottolearnfromsocietybeforetheyarereadyformarriage.
sunbaohong,anexpertwiththeinstituteofadolescentsundertheshanghaiacademyofsocialsciences
zhangda,24,whogotmarriedlastsummerjustaftergraduatingfromacollegeintianjin
"igotmarriedsoearlysimplybecausemyparentshadalreadypreparedanapartmentforme.
"butistillpretendedtobesingleatwork,ascolleaguesmyageareallsingleanditisabitweirdforthemtoknowiammarried.also,iamafraidtheywouldleavemeoutofsocialactivitiesiftheysawmeasafamilyman.
"idon'tthinkiamyetreadytoacceptmynewidentityasamarriedman."
zhuke,23,whogotmarriedattheendoflastyearaftergraduatingfromacollegeinshanghai
"ifeltgreatpressuretofindagoodjobaftergraduationsoichosetomarryamanwholovesmeandiswillingtoshouldermyburden.
"butit'sstillabitweirdwhenmyformerclassmatestalkabouttheirnewsinglelivesatourget-togetherswhileiamworryingaboutthingslikehowtopayforthehouse,whentovisithisparentsandevenwhentohaveababy.
"theintimacybetweenmeandmyfriendsisvanishing,andifeeliammissingoutonaperiodoftimethatshouldbethehappiestforagirlmyage."
"gettingmarriedsoonaftergraduationcanresultinbothpsychologicalandeconomicproblems.ayoungcouplehavenoideaofwhatdifficultiesmayconfrontthemintheirwork,theirfamilylifeandevenfromsociety.theirimpulsivedecisiontomarrymightwellunderminethemarriageinthelongrun.
wuzebin,amaster'sdegreeholderinsociologywithpekinguniversty